Please friends and family, vouch for me….before the twins came along I was always on time. Nowadays in our family we talk about “Twin Time” – whenever we are meant to be anywhere and we are about half an hour late we just shrug and say “Sorry, we are on twin time!”
It took us a long time (16 months) to get to this point where we just shrug and mildly apologize. We used to be embarrassed, no, actually completely mortified, but now I think people give us a little bit of a free pass as they have come to expect it.
Just yesterday the photographer shows up to take some family pics of us with Grammy who is visiting from Scotland. Well he arrived and I had one kid under my arm in a football hold, fully dressed on the top, diapered bum on the bottom – clearly not ready. So I welcome him in and apologize for that and my messy house, but luckily he understands as he is also a father of twins. He definitely understands “Twin Time”!
When the boys were just three weeks old we were taking them out to visit my in-laws for Christmas day. The only trips we had taken up to this point (due to cold, winter weather) was the doctors. I remember it took us four hours to get ready and out the door. We would just start to go and we would have to stop and feed a baby, change a diaper, clean spit up or pacify a crying baby. It had taken us so much effort to pack up everything and get to the point that we were ready to leave, that I looked at the hubby completely exhausted, and said “Why don’t we just stay home?” Truth is my mother-in-laws turkey was calling to me and I was having some, no matter what!
We no longer take four hours to get ready, but on any day we could still have these “unforeseen circumstances” right before we are about to leave, that stop us from being on time. Now I start getting ready at least an hour before we need to leave. Gone are the spontaneous trips to the store, movie, friends. Now it’s plan, plan, plan, pack, pack, pack. My diaper bag is impressively large and I often forget to put everything in there! A few times we have actually gotten to our destination and realized we left the diaper bag at home. We were probably on time those days.
I can’t wait to be punctual again, but maybe you experienced parents or caregivers know better.