Adjusting to Preschool: a Big Step for Parents, an Even Bigger Step for Kids.



Wow. Crazy.

My 5.9 lb and 5.10 lb twin boys have grown up and are old enough for preschool.

When did that happen?

After years of talking to friends and strangers at the playground about what school to send the kids too, the decision was made, and the moment arrived.

As with all big events we plan: our weddings, graduations, family functions- it is rare that everything runs smoothly and to plan, despite all the prep work. And prep we did: we read books to the twins about preschool, we talked about it and even watched a show or two about school.

Here’s what we got on the day: one excited twin, and one not so much!

The first day of school photos turned out perfectly, didn’t they? The front of Mason and the back of Cameron :)

Just goes to show that you can prep all you want, but kids will be kids, and individuals at that, so no telling what they will do, or how they will act!

Well hubby and I got to stay with the boys for the first day. The school has a gentle separation program, where the parents (or caregiver) stay with the kids (for days or weeks) till they are comfortable and ready to separate.

The twins painted, played with trains and even played dress up ….

They really tried to include us in their fun. And the great part was we got to see them enjoying it all (or most of it). Cameron got a tiny bit clingy during outdoor play and wanted to go home, but snack and story time saved the day!

The boys were great on their first day. The funny thing is I don’t think I’m ready to let go. It’s just two hours twice a week, but I’ve gotten used to our routine. This from the woman who just today said to her hubby she needs some “alone” time, to recharge and to be a better mom to the boys!

Well hopefully we all make the adjustment sooner rather than later. I can’t wait to have time to exercise, do errands or have a little me time.

As you can tell I am conflicted and torn about leaving the kids, even though we will all benefit in the end. It’s an adjustment, and I’m sure you parents out there who have survived first day of elementary school, high school and even college know more about the adjustmtest than I do. And I’m just as sure you survived, like I will.

Hopefully the boys will feel happy and comfortable in school soon. I can smell my freedom already, and it smells like…. YOGA!!! 😉

About Twin Mom

34 year old, born in a small steel town in South Africa, now living in a large Steel City in the US. Mother of twins and loving every moment.
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19 Responses to Adjusting to Preschool: a Big Step for Parents, an Even Bigger Step for Kids.

  1. LOL @ “I can smell my freedom and it smells like YOGA”

    I just transitioned my girls to a new daycare and I can tell you it took around 4 weeks for them to adjust. One day they were clingy and complaining, the next day they looked at me and said “bye mommy” and ran off to play. I suspect the transition was hard on us all.

  2. Clare says:

    Darling. Every child is different. You just need to go with the flow. Caroline was just wanting to be out there, and waved goodbye as soon as she could, but you were a little more reticent. Caroline told you it was “ok” so then you decided to trust her and you went with her, and the next thing I knew was that you had both gone into the school and I was left on my own. I felt quite upset that you did not “need” me anymore!

  3. Lexie Lane says:

    Haaahaaaa!!! Freedom! Oh! I’m gonna wait one more year. :) Hope they love it! Lovely pics!

  4. My freedom smells like coffee!!!! :)

    That program is awesome — when they’re ready, be sure you let go, whether you’re ready or not. XOXO

  5. Corinne says:

    I hate to break it to you, but that torn feeling you are experiencing will be a continuing phenomenon for years to come. Every Fall I am so excited to send the kids back to school and by mid-morning of their first day back, I am missing them!

  6. Michele says:

    Even twins have their differences and it is quite telling in how they reacted to school. But ready or not–ready they both will have to become as well as you–may I suggest doing Yoga while they are in pre school?

    • Twin Mom says:

      I definitely want to do yoga while in preschool – I just have to wait till they are fully comfortable and adjusted according to the teacher and then I am out of there! This “gentle separation program” is meant to be a program that builds self confidence in the kids and it helps them through attachment. So far so good….

  7. Pamela R says:

    freedom LOL MINE smelled like BLOGGING =D

    • Twin Mom says:

      MMMM – I used to do that during nap time, but they are taking shorter naps and I have less help so I am busier and missing blogging!

  8. Kim says:

    You take such great pictures. Sad to see them go, but we have to. Mine is in pre pre-school and will soon leave the nest….well, just for the day!!!

  9. And so it begins. They just start off for school and you don’t know whether to cry or jump for joy. Welcome to mother hood where every new adventure makes you wonder if you are insane. :)

  10. OUPA says:

    Lovely that you could both share that day together. Great pics.

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